Thank You Dad
With Father’s Day approaching, I wanted to take a moment to share with you a thank you to my father. While I know not everyone has a father in the picture, I think it is important to learn from the great father’s out there. I am pleased to share insight into my incredible relationship with my dad. My life has been greatly impacted by his parenting and teachings. Hopefully, no matter what your situation, this article will speak to you. Maybe it will be food for thought for what type of parent you choose to be.
David McDavid, my dad, was raised in small-town Texas before moving to Houston in his teenage years. While his upbringing was not easy, he took life by the steering wheel and decided to dictate his future. At the young age of 17, he opened his first car dealership with no formal education and only one solid skill, the only skill he had learned from his father: sales. If you know my dad, you know there is no better salesman! For those of you who don’t know the background, my father built an auto franchise that was ultimately acquired by public company Asbury Automotive Group out of New York. I was fortunate enough to witness my father’s success and what it took to get there. He was the hardest working person I know, leaving our house at 6am each day and not returning until 10pm. How many car dealers do you know who work those hours?! However, what really resonates with me now is his dedication to parenting. Whenever I had a soccer game, he never failed to be there, even if he did have to go straight back to work as soon as it was over. I remember him flying home from New York just to catch a game for an hour then flying right back.
I was going into my freshman year of high school when he was selling the company. At only 13 years old, he had me sit in meetings to learn about the process of making a deal. He also made sure to consistently inform me of any important lessons he was learning through the process. I remember going to New York to meet with the Wall Street team working on the deal and the team was stunned that a child was going to be present in the meetings, but he told them that was just how it was going to be. While this is just one example of the important experiences I had with my father, there are many more, such as extensive travel from the time I was 3 years old to “educate me on the various cultures in the world.” Some of my most vivid memories are of him playing devil’s advocate when I felt strongly about something to ensure I could back up my opinion (he still does this by the way!). He is in every decision I make. Even if I don’t personally ask his view, I can hear his voice in the back of my head, usually encouraging me to make each decision with integrity. I sometimes feel like every action he takes while in my presence is carefully thought out so that I learn something from it. He has always practiced what he preached and that is key.
While all of the above has completely shaped my life, the single most important thing I have seen my father do is support women. From giving back to female-focused charities to a focus on funding female-founded startups, there has been a consistent message that as a woman, I can achieve anything. He never for one moment let me believe I couldn’t shatter the glass ceiling. His respect towards women, especially his respect for my mother, has shown me how men should treat women and I have not and will not settle for less. Everything he has done for women has led me to discover that part of my purpose is to show women that they can have it all. With that, I will leave you with the below thank you message to my dad.
Thank you for showing me what it is to work hard.
Thank you for showing me that you can be a present parent even if you do work too many hours each day.
Thank you for being dedicated to my education.
Thank you for showing me the world.
Thank you for arguing with me every day to prepare me to back up every opinion I possess.
Thank you for teaching me integrity.
Thank you for teaching me to practice what you preach.
Thank you for teaching me to take risks, but only calculated ones of course!
Thank you for teaching me to give back.
Thank you for teaching me how men should treat women so that I can never be taken advantage of professionally or personally.
Thank you for teaching me that women can do it all!
Thank you for every selfless act and all the love you have shown me all these years!